Break ups suck. There’s nothing that hurts more than trusting someone completely, only to get your heart broken by them. I’m someone who loves selflessly and with a fire that burns deep. I care too much and I’ve certainly had my fair share of heartache. But break ups don’t have to be the end of the world. Here’s my advice on what to do when the break up is not mutual.
Don’t Do Things to Get Back at Him
Even if he hurt you, you should treat him with the respect that he deserves. You cared about the relationship and you probably still care about him- so act like it. As tempting as it is- don’t post catty things online, burn his belongings, or trash talk him. It looks bad on you and it causes more damage than good.
Give Him Space
This can be the hardest part. After talking to each other every day, it can be hard to cut off all communication. You might try to stay friends, but that’s probably one of the worst things to do. There won’t be much to talk about and things will get awkward. Inevitably, one of you is going to find someone else, and that will lead to jealousy and other bad things. Take time to adjust away from each other before you try being friends.
Surround Yourself with People who Love You
It’s hard to be happy after a break up. But don’t forget about all of the people who care about you. Your sorority sisters, your friends, and your family will be there to support you. Spend time with them while you watch movies and eat your feelings. Get rid of the negative and surround yourself with the positive.
Don’t Feel Sorry for Yourself
It’s natural to feel bad about yourself after the break up. But do your best to avoid feeling that way. The relationship didn’t work because the two of you weren’t compatible- it wasn’t anything you did. Keep in mind that most people don’t find “the one” until their late 20’s. You have so much time to find your dream guy.
Realize That You’re Going to be Okay
Use this time to take care of yourself. It’s easy to let a break up make you feel like you aren’t good enough. Just remember that you’re more than good enough for the right person. Try new things and meet new people. Give yourself time to heal and readjust before putting yourself back out there. Don’t forget that you are smart, gorgeous, lovable, and worthwhile. With time, you’ll forget the heartache and things will get better. The best is yet to come.
Even if he hurt you, you should treat him with the respect that he deserves. You cared about the relationship and you probably still care about him- so act like it. As tempting as it is- don’t post catty things online, burn his belongings, or trash talk him. It looks bad on you and it causes more damage than good.
Give Him Space
This can be the hardest part. After talking to each other every day, it can be hard to cut off all communication. You might try to stay friends, but that’s probably one of the worst things to do. There won’t be much to talk about and things will get awkward. Inevitably, one of you is going to find someone else, and that will lead to jealousy and other bad things. Take time to adjust away from each other before you try being friends.
Surround Yourself with People who Love You
It’s hard to be happy after a break up. But don’t forget about all of the people who care about you. Your sorority sisters, your friends, and your family will be there to support you. Spend time with them while you watch movies and eat your feelings. Get rid of the negative and surround yourself with the positive.
Don’t Feel Sorry for Yourself
It’s natural to feel bad about yourself after the break up. But do your best to avoid feeling that way. The relationship didn’t work because the two of you weren’t compatible- it wasn’t anything you did. Keep in mind that most people don’t find “the one” until their late 20’s. You have so much time to find your dream guy.
Realize That You’re Going to be Okay
Use this time to take care of yourself. It’s easy to let a break up make you feel like you aren’t good enough. Just remember that you’re more than good enough for the right person. Try new things and meet new people. Give yourself time to heal and readjust before putting yourself back out there. Don’t forget that you are smart, gorgeous, lovable, and worthwhile. With time, you’ll forget the heartache and things will get better. The best is yet to come.